We raised him to be all he could be.
He was a boy who seemed spun from light.
A firefly caught in our hands--winning
ribbons, trophies, hearts--
as if it were all just games he was born
knowing how to play.
He made it look so easy.
We thought he’d go far.
Maybe to the moon. Maybe past it.
We didn’t see what would catch him.
I still don’t know what it is.
The vulnerability, the break, the hidden thing.
I don’t know what to call it —
the thing that caught him.
If I could name it, maybe I could fix it.
On my worst days, I want a reason.
Someone to blame. A fix.
On my best days, I let the mystery be.
He’s a natural at everything that doesn’t pay.
Telling stories.
Lighting up a room.
Giving things away.
Not a natural student.
Not a natural earner.
Not a natural builder of a safe, steady life.
When he asks for money now, I say no.
I tell myself it’s for his own good.
I tell myself it’s for mine.
Tonight he texts: he’s sick.
Can’t work.
Needs food.
And my wall starts to sag.
I want to throw open the door.
I want to buy him a week’s worth of groceries,
a year’s worth of groceries,
the whole grocery store.
I remember the fake Christmas tree.
The way he stood there, 9 years old, begging
for a live one.
I’ll buy it myself, he said.
For our family.
I think about his birthday money spent
on teddy bears.
One for every girl in his class.
So no one would feel left out.
I think about the boy who told me his classmate
Robert Garcia was the best runner, best swimmer,
best student.
And when I said, I'm sure you’re the best
at something, too, he grinned, I am.
I’m Robert Garcia’s best friend.
And now I don’t know if giving to him again
saves him — or sinks him deeper.
I tell myself it’s a boundary.
I repeat it all like a prayer.
I don’t know if no is love.
I don’t know if yes is love.
I just know he’s asking.